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What Should I Do About My Child's Relationship?

 



This is very difficult to answer because everyone is different. Abusers turn their victims into being loyal toward them. If anyone is seen to question that, it is treated as being against them.

You require a lot of wisdom. 

Here are some suggestions: 

·        If you push what you see, your child might think you don’t understand and believe the abuser that you are against them and their love

·        Try to stay in their lives in a wise way. The abuser will probably sense that you are not easily controlled and speak badly of you to your child. This could result in their mind becoming poisoned against you and usually leads to isolation

·        If you do nothing, it will be terrible for your child

·        Pray for the Lord’s leading, wisdom, or for him to provide opportunities to speak

·        Try to spend time with them when you don’t speak about the abuser

·        Speak to your child about life and situations from a life-giving biblical perspective. This will be different from how the abuser speaks

·        If appropriate, speak to people your child knows and trusts. This requires a lot of prayer and wisdom

·        When you have your God-given opportunity to speak, ask questions:

o   How did you come to that decision?

o   When you spent time with us, what was their response? What did they say? How did they relate toward you in the days afterwards?

o   Give me examples of how you resolve conflict

o   Give me examples of how they respond when you disagree with them

·        Don’t tell them what to do. This is what the abuser does. Try to help them work on making their own choices and learning to think biblically again 

If you would like to understand more about emotional abuse and how to help people who are being treated in this way, please check out my books: 

The Emotionally Abusive Mindset: Its Effects & How to Overcome Them in Christ: https://mybook.to/EmotAbusiveMindset

 The Emotionally Abusive Husband: Its Effects & How to Overcome Them in Christ: https://mybook.to/EmotAbusiveHusband

 And The Emotionally Abusive Parent: Its Effects & How to Overcome Them in Christ: https://viewbook.at/EmotAbusiveParent 

All of them are available at: www.annedryburgh.com

 


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